The list of reasons why people fail could be pages and pages long, but I wanted to boil it down to the 5 that I thought were most significant.
The 5 Deadly Reasons Why People Fail
1. Uninspiring Goals
When most individual’s are setting goals, they define them with material items like cars, clothes, and accessories. Unfortunately this is a temporary fix to their happiness. It won’t be long before that gaping hole needs to be filled once again.
The first step towards the solution is to be aware that material items won’t buy you happiness. Having that inner dialogue that says, “hey, this isn’t the fix I thought it was. There is something deeper going on here.” Happiness comes from within. Material items only supplement happiness.
Don’t set material goals. Material items won’t bring you long-term happiness. Focus your goals on LOVE and making a difference in the world, and I GUARANTEE you will be happy when you triumph.
Just today on the train ride home, I offered up my seat to an elderly lady who squeezed in like a can of sardines. Just the smile on her face overwhelmed me with warmth. A small deed like that can change everything.
Set a goal to go out of your way and do one good deed for someone else.
2. Unrealistic Timetable
If you overestimate what you can do in a week and underestimate what you can do in a year, then you are setting yourself up for disaster. Remember, an inch is a synch, a yard is hard.
Focus on small, daily improvements. Strive to become 1% better each and every day. Break down your big picture goals into small action steps. Doing so will make your day-to-day tasks less stressful, and it won’t feel like the end is soo far away.
3. Fear of Failure
“What if I don’t make it? What if I don’t succeed. What will all of my friends think of me? What will my family say? What if… what if… what if…” STOP IT.
You should never compare yourself to others or others’ success.
Write out positive affirmations to read every day. Start with the template “I am _____.” I am strong. I am successful. I am intelligent. I am love. I am trust. This will re-train your mindset.
4. Fear of Success
“What if I get my hopes up and I’m disappointed when I get there. What if it isn’t as good as I thought it would be.” “I’m not good enough.” STOP IT.
You ARE good enough. You DESERVE success. Visualize it. Attract it. Own it.
This is probably the biggest contributor to why people fail. Inconsistency is a deadly sin. Most people don’t have a defined plan to get them where they want to be. If they do have a plan, it usually falls apart after a few short weeks.
Create a plan of attack every Sunday night for the upcoming week. What will you be doing each day of the week and at what times? Pin this to your wall, office, or refrigerator.
Also, every night before you go to bed, write down the 2 or 3 MOST IMPORTANT tasks to accomplish for the next day. I suggest getting into the habit of waking up early because you can crank out these tasks before Lunch and feel so accomplished that you have the entire rest of the day left to be productive.
It takes 21 days create a habit. I like to add 9 more days and make it 30. Implementing change isn’t easy, but after a month you will have established a lucrative, and successful habit.
6. [BONUS] Not Associating With The Right People
If you hang around unsuccessful people, then you will be unsuccessful. If you hang around worry worts, you will become a worry wort. If you hang around people who play the victim role, you will play the victim role.
Find people who have had success before and become their holster. Invite positive, determined, and optimistic individuals into your life; drop the negative Nancy’s. Start taking control of who your inner circle is. Learn from the best, be the best.
This is one of the biggest mistakes I made in the past. I always pointed the finger at others. I never wanted to take the blame. I had a hard time celebrating other’s success because I was spiteful that I didn’t have my own.
Then I read 1 quote by Jim Rohn, and 1 concept by Napolean Hill, that changed my life forever.
“You are an average of the 5 people you surround yourself with.” – Jim Rohn
“The coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people, who work toward a definite purpose, in the spirit of harmony.” – Napoleon Hill’s Mastermind Group principle
I looked at the people who were in my inner circle, and I realized they were negative, pessimistic haters. I had an ‘aha’ moment.
It was at that time that I began searching for mentors and positive influencers in my life. After connecting with many successful individuals along the way, I found mastermind groups of entrepreneurs and other like-minded people.